How To Be The Perfect Mom: The Blueprint

How To Be The Perfect Mom: The Blueprint

Thinking back to when I was a little girl I can still remember always dreaming of being a mom and wanting a lot of  children, ten to be exact. However, although I didn't have ten I was blessed with two boy's and one girl whom I love and adore. 

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    Motherhood doesn't come with an instruction manual which leads us mothers new and seasoned to wing it a lot of times through trial and error like life itself. Leading some of us mothers to come to the realization that we have to figure out motherhood as we go. Which in a way allows us to become more well rounded moms as we face the many challenges' and uncertainties that comes along with motherhood. As sailors adjusts their sails to the wind every time it changes directions.  

 I remember the excitement rushing over me when I found out I was pregnant with my first baby. I was twenty one and a first time mom to be. I had prepared my whole childhood for this moment, growing up taking care of my dolls and all. This pregnancy was going to be amazing. His dad was going to be just as excited, as we'd go together to doctors appointments, planning the baby shower and picking out baby names together, you know the whole pregnancy experience like in the movies. 

    Now, although I was expecting the movie pregnancy experience I got the reality version. I hate to use the expression "baby daddy" but my baby daddy was more nonchalant about me having a baby than excited. In my first trimester when he got in some trouble and was incarcerated leaving me to go through my first pregnancy alone. It was bittersweet attending doctors appointments by myself sitting across from other expecting couples watching as they sat waiting in joy to be seen by the OBGYN. My baby shower came and everyone was in attendance with the exception of my unborn child's father. (imagine that) The shame I faced boldly to say the least. 

     Fast forward February 2005 and it's delivery time! Time to push and breath, breath and push or which ever order it goes in, it was time to delivery my first bundle of pure love. Everyone was in the hospital room my mom, my aunts and even my uncle popped his head in while I was pushing and accidently caught sight of his great nephew's head coming out the birth canal. It was surely an unforgettable evening and although I prepped for this day since I could remember, oh how I wish I had a blueprint on how to be a perfect mom back then because I knew nothing about being a mom, let alone a perfect mom. 

    After having my son my life changed I was now responsible for not just myself but a new life, a new born and it was difficult I was a new me I was a mommy. Sometimes we cried together, he'd be crying for seemed as though no reasons at all and I'd be crying from a lack of sleep etc. I was alone with just my motherly instincts, tears and prayers. I had family but I lived alone. The most simplest of things like trying to eat, take a shower, getting dressed and even car trips turned into to task like putting in and taking out the car seat every time I went somewhere. Packing a diaper bag making sure I had everything I needed inside from bottles, formula, down to a extra pair of clothes and sometimes I'd still forget to pack everything. Then let me not touch bases on the stroller or him sleeping in his crib at night. Doctors appointments, colic, cradle cap, you name it. The responsibilities and duties seemed endless along with to much to bare sometimes for one parent alone. 

    However, as time pass I started getting into the swing of this calling called "Motherhood." As the days passed the task started to become more easy and I started balancing life again within the median of being a mom. I watched my baby grow through the stages of infancy into the stages of adulthood as we grew together which seemed to go by all so fast. As our family of two turned into a family of five once I met my husband and had two more children. Leading me to share this piece of advice to other moms. 

    Enjoy the challenges of motherhood in it's entirety the good times along with the hardships as it will strengthen you in ways you'd never imagine for the best and  push you to limits you'd never thought you'd exceed, my hopes are for you the reader. The time will pass in the blink of an eye and you'll possibly be surprised at how far you've come in the journey of  motherhood if you stick to evolving.  Babies are like roses, they start off as a little bud that opens and flourishes so quickly  that you have to admire it in all it's stages to appreciate the beauty of it's bloom. 

    There is nothing easy about being a mom yet as the saying goes nothing good ever comes easy. This is part of the blueprint of being a perfect mom, making correctable mistakes, learning as you go/grow in the journey of Motherhood while also being comfortable with knowing that no matter what you do or how hard you try the truth is there's no such thing as a perfect mom.